My experience with helicopter moms is significant because I encounter this behavior quite often in my career. The severity has ranged from mild to severe and every mother's story is different; behaviors are justified, and in most cases their behavior(s) negatively impacted their children. We carry our children for 9 months and release them into the world; I am a mother, I get it. Nevertheless, Dory (Finding Nemo, 2003), said it best, youtu.be/zEMcEYZr7Cw Go ahead, click the YouTube link. This is the most powerful part of the movie to me, and I also share Dory's sentiments while speaking to Marlon:
What Is a Helicopter Mom?
A "helicopter mom" is a parent who is overly involved in their child's life, often to the point of being controlling or smothering. A mother who is constantly hovering over their child, ready to intervene or solve problems at the slightest sign of difficulty. If you identify with the following characteristics, then you are a helicopter mom:
How Does Being a Helicopter Mom Hurt My Kids?
While I am positive that your intentions are good because you want to help your child succeed; however, your "helicopter mom" behavior can have negative consequences. Here are some examples:
Why am I a Helicopter Mom?
I questioned this behavior several times in mothers who self-identified as helicopter moms. Some have anxiety, trauma, and other fears of the world. Here are some possible reasons:
How Can I Stop Being a Helicopter Mom?
If you recognize that you may be a helicopter mom and want to stop, here are some steps you can take:
It is important for helicopter moms to strike a balance between being involved in their child's life and giving them space to learn and grow. While it is natural to want to protect and support your children, you must allow them to experience challenges and develop their own coping strategies. This can help children gain resilience, self-reliance, and a sense of autonomy.
-I did not say it was easy!
Helicopter parenting is not limited to mothers, and can be exhibited by any parent regardless of gender. Despite their reasons, it's important for parents to be aware of the potential negative consequences of helicopter parenting. Changing your parenting style takes time and effort. Be patient with yourself and your child as you work towards a healthier and more balanced approach to parenting.
Remember, you did not want your parents hovering over you...