Blog 63: Was I Born Evil?

Introduction
I try not to give attention to evil. For today's blog, I have to because I was asked this question twice in 2022, once from a child and also an adult. I have dealt with this question in the past, but it has been awhile. My answer has matured over the years. Please continue to read about it and thank you.

​Tolerance
Believe it or not, this question was asked to me face-to-face from a child. Imagine my shock! If I could prepare in advance for questions that kids ask me that would be great; however, that would be too easy right? This question caught me off guard because we were not discussing the topic, but I decided to ask quite a few questions prior to answering his or her question. I sought to learn the catalyst for the question, and the reasons for the curiosity. 

I discovered that this child exhibited what I call a "dark side." Meaning, he or she had an appreciation for Satan and things that fall within that category such as dark angels. He or she had a curiosity about cult behavior and dark magic, for example. I embraced this child's emotions and thoughts. I created a place where this child felt comfortable enough to share with me not only his or her thoughts, but the behaviors of a group of her friends as well. Together, these children sought to understand more information about Satan and had plans of creating their own cult. Their cult would focus on Satan's work and this student wanted to explore what that meant with me.

"Judge not, that. ye be not judged," Matthew 7:1-5

Tolerance is what is needed when faced with a client's belief system unmatched with your own. That does not mean that you become arrogant or lack social graces. Nor does it equate to silence. Meaning, you can call someone on their nonsense and/or viewpoints when and if people need to know the truth. That is the position that I took with these kids in particular, the child that I spoke to one-on-one. Why? Because their thoughts needed an adjustment. I opted to explain the consequences of his or her thinking and plans with live demonstrations from the internet. Fantasy is different from reality, and kids need those reality checks at times. Their brains are still developing which is why many are impulsive. Some of the plans that this child and his or her group of friends had were a result of impulsive thinking void of outcome. During the conversation this child asked me,

"Was I born evil?"

"Why do I think these bad things?" Let's explore how I handled this question.

​Your voice, tone, and eye contact matter in these circumstances. Child are natural observers and will know if you truly care about their needs including questions. I pulled this child closer to me, looked straight into his or her eyes with a low tone, and loving said,

"No sweetheart, you were not born evil."

"Then why do I think this way?" That was a great question, and I decided to write about it. Explaining this child's thinking was not easy due his or her level of intelligence and strong disposition. It was as if I needed proof that this child was not born evil, since I said so but this child was not dealing with a rookie (smile). This was a Nebulous Child which made my explanation and proof even easier. 

Answer
Seeing dark angels and liking their presence makes it hard for some children not to follow their lead. This was one of those kids. It is easy for children to think when these visions happen to them but, they are not easily understood. Especially when a child is lonely, has a difficult life, or impacted by a form of mental illness. Some of those children can be easily influenced, and this Nebulous Child was one of them. He or she justified their beliefs and debated the reasons for moving forward with a Satanic cult. Of note, all cults are different but this one aspired worshipped Satan. If that is ok with some people, it is not for me at all, especially when a person has what I consider abnormal actions due to following a leader. Corrections needed to be made and remember, this was a child whose mind was developing. 

No self-harm or acts of violence from this child, FYI

This child was worshipping Satan. This child entertained joining a group or cult with friends that followed Satan's bible and they all had dark thoughts. I was overjoyed that they came to me and talked because I understood their though process plus their ability to see ghosts. Did I forget to mention that all of those kids could see ghosts? I think so. All of them. Since they could see ghosts and had dark ideologies, the group also questioned whether or not they were born evil. They just asked me by way of the singular child. However, they had plans in all talking to me at once about their plans.  The question about whether or not they were born evil is easy to understand if you thinking about it: 

1) They can see ghosts specifically, dark spirits around themselves and others.
2) Dark angels can appear angelic or with wings.
3) They have been hearing and speaking to dark angels for many years.
4) These kids did not call upon God's angels at all. The dark angels tell them not to do so.

Still, the answer is no. There are a few layers to unpack with regard to the question: Born Evil? Let’s explore the rationale surrounding my answer which begins with my experiences with children seeing ghosts. Topics that I covered in this blog were inspired by entities and other paranormal experiences that children share with me including possessions. Nebulous Children can see dark spirits in various locations and when they are around other people as well. These children also know that dark spirits are demons as did the children above in this blog. Many children refuse dark angles and do not appreciate their presence. In their minds, if demons are around and close to children, does this mean that they are safe and/or am I evil? Primarily because children will hypothesize, I can see these things that no one else can and they are dark to me. Yes, but my response to this theory is simple, 

The spirit is evil, not you. 

It makes the children stop in their tracks each and every time. They think about it and consider what is being told to them about the dark angels that they see around them. Dark angels or demons, can do things to manipulate children, and will make children believe that negative choices are the correct ones.

I also share with these children that people, in general, have free will pending their religious belief system. At times, people make the wrong choices and those can have negative outcomes. Kids are not bad. We all make mistakes, but sometimes the option that we take can lead us to do bad things. Bad things can hurt others and ourselves, and the consequences grow more and more severe as we age. This is how I begin the conversation regarding outcomes. 

Parents
I am going to be more blunt here parents because some of you have asked me the same question about your kids. I am thankful for those questions! Some people watch television show that depict children as having demonic thoughts, behaviors, and actions. That is VERY different than living with a child deemed evil. There have only been three children in my career that made me question whether or not I was dealing with demonic forces; or speaking directly with a demon. True story! To deal with that as their parent is beyond stressful. Parents expect an answer from me, and I firmly tell them no and why (see above).

Nebulous adults, as well as parents of Nebulous Children ask me that question as well from time to time. Remember, demons do not reign supreme and can be casted out of an individual or from your surroundings. However, it continues to be a difficult question to answer. It is also a matter of religious belief as well, and my responses are grounded in my own faith. Now, I can also answer strictly by way of mental health, but I choose to say more than that within my answers. That choice is yours when you encounter these type of questions. If you want to stick with mental health, that is an option as well. Remember, when parents ask you about anything “evil” that typically means that they have some understanding of it. Never underestimate the intelligence of your parents. They will tell you if they do not believe in “evil” or not, as well as whether or not they agree with you. I have learned that most of the time if they disagree, it is because of the nature of their child's troubles. Evil can explain the damage to them. Be compassionate.

Lack of remorse from these kids can be explained as well, by way of mental health.
Use your clinical judgement therapists.
​Parents, continue to ask hard questions.

Preschool Children - Evil?
Yes, I get this question about preschool children too. For example, "My child tries to harm others but still, my kid is not evil?"

No.

Some parents seek an understanding for how their preschool children can want to harm others, for example, on the playground at school. Again, my answer is no. Biologically, pregnancy is a delicate experience for a mother and child, and even more so during childbirth. Things do go wrong, unfortunately, when brain chemicals and structures are being formed. Any interference in that intricate process can cause either permanent abnormalities or maybe other symptoms that are not as heavily explored scientifically, such as how mental illness forms neonatally. There is a significant amount of research about colic in babies, temperament in infants, and temper tantrums in toddlers, but not enough to say with certainty that anger begins at birth or at the time of conception. Genetics, however, do play apart in emotional regulation along with behavioral modeling and other environmental factors. Therefore, research supports physiological or bodily processes that contribute to symptoms of mental illness, even in young children. Scientifically, these are the reasons that I reject the idea of children being born evil.

Now, if we are discussing this topic from a spiritual perspective, my answer is still no. The above information still applies, but I have also encountered and currently know plenty of individuals who can see ghosts who tell me to say to even preschool parents,

Get rid of evil spirits from that child via prayer.

My Nebulous friends will tell them to get their kids to pray as well. Some parents will reject that option and that is fine too. However, even adults who can see ghosts do not want dark angels around them. They have told me their concerns; how they remove them, and that they cause harm. Some adults who can see ghosts told me that they could see dark spirits in their homes and near their children as babies. Those parents were afraid and would burn sage or do whatever it took biblically, to protect their children.

Personally, I believe that children are divine. They are the closest beings to God. I will never believe that they are born evil. 

What say you?

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