Blog 31: "The Truth Divided, When Children Lied About Seeing Ghosts"

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​The Truth Divided
I was divided because on one hand, I wanted to believe children. On the other hand, we all know that children fabricate many stories to share with adults. Adults lie too, even about seeing ghosts. You may have been wondering,

How Does She Know When Kids Lied to Her About Seeing Ghosts?

The answer: Easily!

​Remember, asking a child if s/he could see ghosts was not how I attained information about their ability to see ghosts. When you work with kids one-on-one, they grow to trust you. At some point if they do see ghosts, they will tell you. It happened to me many times as I grew up in psychology.
If you are in the field of the social sciences, it will happen to you as well, at least once.

Discerning whether or not a child was a truthful about the ability to see ghosts became easy for me, over time. The children that I encountered saw the same ghosts around me, and talked about them to me.
It was almost as if they were teaching me about those spirits, and how those spirits interacted with me.
However, a child's imagination cannot be denied when revealing ghost sightings right?

But, I am realistic too...

Which meant that I needed to find a way to determine the truth which at times, left me VERY divided with regard to the type of treatment that I chose with the families. On one hand, I wanted to assist the kids with understanding their ability to see ghosts if it was true,
versus making sure they felt supported with their stories,
even if those stories were lies.
In other words, in psychology we should try to believe our clients. I know t's hard when you know that they are lying to you. We do have ways to dissect whether or not our clients are untruthful. Some of those techniques and assessment proved handy to me when my hypotheses about their mental soundness and stories were unsettling. In later years, I could figure it out the truth because of repeated experiences with Nebulous Children.
That helped to determine whether I was being filled with lies or not.

When Children Lied
In reading this blog, you are already aware that Children A, B, and C had stories about the angels surrounding me. Those stories provided me with an anchor, or point of reference, to learn if new child clients were lying or not about ghost sitings. Believe me, children who lied to me about seeing ghosts happened frequently, which is why I decided to write a blog about my experiences on my podcast last week.

Some people read google information regarding the symptoms of various mental health ailments, and teach their children "trigger" words or "trigger symptoms" to share with Psychologists and other therapists in sessions. This is the reason that I was/am always careful with regard to clients sharing information with me when I work with them. Ask a lot of questions of them until you are satisfied.
That was my method in dealing with (potential) Nebulous Children.

When children lied about seeing ghosts to me, they were unable to tell me key things about the sitings around me, or within the area/building/grounds at my place of employment. For example, all Nebulous Children were aware of dark angels and discussed them. Kids who lied did not know about them - at all. That was huge for me.

Kids who lied about seeing ghosts were unable to provide details about their sightings, (e.g., It's just a ghost). Kids who lied to me about seeing ghosts were not afraid of them. The overwhelming majority of Nebulous Children were afraid of their sightings at some point within their young lives.
The dark angels scared them, especially at night.
Including, other spirits who walked around their residences or schools.

Yes, a few Nebulous Children were not afraid of dark angels. However, some of them were older children who adjusted to their sightings, and new how to ignore them or protect themselves by praying them away. That does not mean that they were not scared of them at some point. All Nebulous Children and Nebulous Adults can tell you when sightings became scary to them.
Also, Nebulous Children presented with the same stories...all of them.
Children who about lied about seeing ghosts did not share that in common with Nebulous Children.

An important detail that distinguished Nebulous Children from children who lied was symptoms of mental illness. Both sets of children presented with symptoms of mental illness.
Children who lied continued to have those symptoms after attempts to help them control their "gifts."
Remember, your clients need to feel as if you believe them.

You do not tell your clients that they are lying to you; you want to be supportive, at least until it is time to unravel their deceptions and manipulations. Nebulous Children's symptoms of mental illness gravely improved once I taught them strategies to cope, rid, or to embrace and improve their abilities.

Now, some Nebulous Children enjoyed the company of demons, or dark angels. When this happened, I noticed a pattern of symptoms of mental illness continuing until I was able to find a way to remove those dark angels away from the kids. Sometimes it worked, other times it did not because dark angels are tricky with their tactics to influence children. Many times, I needed to "join the families" to create a strong alliance or force, to make this removal of dark angels happen for the children. At times it worked, and sometimes it did not because dark angels are masters at manipulation, and usually speak to children without adults around. I was divided between an unseen force pushing the children not to listen to me or their parents, along with trying to help to remove those dark spirits.

Questions: Who pioneered or created, "Joining the Family?"
What branch of therapy is joining the family related to or categorized?
Hint: This person is not a Psychologist, and recently passed away.
I am a huge fan of his, Rest In Peace.

Challenges
Distinguishing between the two sets of children; those who could truly see ghosts, versus those who lied became something that I had to incorporate into my structured interview questions.
In therapy those answers proved useful and made treatment easier.
I could always rely on the knowledge gained from Nebulous Children and their parents.

Experience is the best teacher of strategic thinking and planning. Assessments will guide you and provide data about both sets of children.. Success is when you determine the underlying cause behind a child's struggles. Working with Nebulous Children initially is shocking. Exposure to them, when you least expect it, trains you to work with kids differently than what you learned in school.

Are you ready?

Notes:
1) As I tell my students, always site your references: The photo above is stunning and I had to find the Artist!!!! It is a perfect depiction of how divided I felt when working with both sets of children: Nebulous Children versus children who lied about seeing ghosts. I found the artist on Instagram: @aistaist.aist. On his Instagram page, you can find a link to purchase a print of the photo. Included on the photo above there is a link on it to the website where I found it. All photos on this website ARE SITED for references. Check the bottom of each photo for websites.

2) I created the title, "The Truth Divided" several years ago. I was not credited for the development of that title, and it was stolen from me for a periodical. To be specific, the person took full credit, (even publicly), for the gift that God bestowed upon me for the title of the periodical.
That person lied.

See how dark angels can be manipulative? They make adults lie too.

The Truth Shall Set You Free...

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